Apologies for how long this is in advance, there is a TL;DR at the bottom.
Hi, everyone! I have been vegan for 6 years now, but I've been ready to start eating animal products again for the past year. When I went vegan, I didn't pressure, try to convince, or guilt trip my boyfriend in any way. He ended up naturally choosing to go vegan with me a couple of months later.
The reasons I want to stop being vegan are as follows:
I am B12 deficient, despite taking both methylcobalamin and cyanocobalamin B12 vitamins as well as eating plenty of nutritional yeast. I get blood taken every 2 months and my B12 is steadily getting lower and lower, which is a very bad thing as I am sure you know. My only options are to try the B12 injection (which I am hesitant to do because I feel like my diet is pretty unhealthy if I have to resort to this just to stay alive, and that's only if it works for me) or to eat animal products again.
Because I also have hypothyroidism (runs in my family, 2 people with Hashimoto's), multiple doctors have urged me to stop eating all soy products and even gluten. This means that basically all I can eat are fruit, vegetables and beans if I stay vegan, which is limiting to say the least.
I am also overweight and since ~80% of my calories are from carbs and I have hypothyroidism, weight loss is an unbelievably slow crawl even with my Synthroid. I am dying to try keto which is borderline impossible while vegan, especially when you can't eat tofu.
I feel unhealthy, despite eating nutritiously. I am overweight because I eat too many calories (and probably carbs), not because I eat junk food. I eat a ton of veggies and fruit and beans, no soda/chips/fries/etc. and a very rare/occasional sweet treat. Yet I am physically weak and exhausted pretty much 24/7. My teeth are extremely sensitive, my hair is dry like straw (despite conditioning every day and only shampooing once a week) and my nails are brittle and break constantly.
I am so tired of having 1-2 restaurants to choose from at all times (and only 1-2 things I can order at each), being a pain-in-the-ass as a dinner guest, not being able to eat 90% of the food at the store (we live in the mid-west and pickings are slim), etc.
I simply miss animal products.
My experiences bringing it up with my boyfriend:
The first time I brought this up to my boyfriend, he said he was perfectly okay with it. The next time we needed to go to the grocery store, I told him I was going to buy some chicken and he started telling me I should go to one more doctor's appointment before doing so, and that even though he said he didn't care before, he 'kind of does.'
I went to the doctor's and lo and behold, just like always, my b12 wasn't any better. But the next time he was drinking (which is a very rare occurence by the way), he started nagging me about it and saying he couldn't believe I was so weak and a bad person for wanting to eat animals again. Because of this, I didn't bring it up for a long time again.
Fast forward to a week ago, we had a small argument and I brought up that the only reason I am still vegan is for him, and that it's unfair to me. I told him I didn't guilt trip or pressure him to go vegan initially and it's unfair to guilt trip and pressure me to stay vegan now. He said he isn't stopping me and I can do whatever I want.
I'd like to do that, but I am worried he's just gonna get weird again, nag at me, bitch at me, tell me I am a bad person or to go to the doctor's again especially since I haven't gone in a few months since I switched my insurance.
My dilemma:
What should I do? Go to the store and just start putting meat/etc. in the cart? Tell him when I go to the store that I'm doing it? Talk to him before hand? Does anyone have any experience with this or have any advice?
I know I'm a grown woman and should be able to choose what I put in my body, but I am in a very awkward position. Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: I'm a 6 year vegan who wants to start eating meat again because of serious health issues as well as convenience, taste and the keto diet. Despite never, ever guilt tripping/pressuring my boyfriend to go vegan initially (he went vegan later naturally), he is guilt tripping/pressuring me to stay vegan, but pretending he doesn't care (??) and is generally being defensive and wishy-washy about it. How do I handle this?
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